Comments on: How to Get Up When You’re Really Down http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/ Tom Volkar ~ Career Coaching Your Leap to Self-Employment Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:23:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: How t0 Increase your personal power, focus and energy. | Delightful Work http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-1462 How t0 Increase your personal power, focus and energy. | Delightful Work Mon, 15 Dec 2008 13:48:31 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-1462 [...] This process uses journaling, which is a very effective method for feeling and releasing negative emotions.  I’ve personally found it to be highly effective and it’s what got me unstuck from the lingering affects of a major life wound. [...] [...] This process uses journaling, which is a very effective method for feeling and releasing negative emotions.  I’ve personally found it to be highly effective and it’s what got me unstuck from the lingering affects of a major life wound. [...]

]]> By: Watch Your Language – Three Small Adjustments that Can Make Your Dreams Come True | Delightful Work http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-445 Watch Your Language – Three Small Adjustments that Can Make Your Dreams Come True | Delightful Work Thu, 22 May 2008 02:59:02 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-445 [...] tell almost immediately. For years I repeatedly talked about my biggest business and life failure. I wrote about it here. It hurt so much that it had become not only my story but also my identity. It colored everything, [...] [...] tell almost immediately. For years I repeatedly talked about my biggest business and life failure. I wrote about it here. It hurt so much that it had become not only my story but also my identity. It colored everything, [...]

]]> By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-26 Tom Volkar / Delightful Work Thu, 21 Feb 2008 23:42:19 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-26 Lisa, welcome, we are strangers no more. I'm betting that you know what you want to focus on. Wishing you the lift sooner that is surely coming your way. Lisa, welcome, we are strangers no more. I’m betting that you know what you want to focus on. Wishing you the lift sooner that is surely coming your way.

]]> By: Lisa Brady http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-27 Lisa Brady Thu, 21 Feb 2008 23:00:39 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-27 Just saw your recognition in Andrea's newsletter and came out to see what the fuss was about. :) Funny how the same universe that I cursed today for non-support thru a very similar situation as what you went thru in '97, can turn around and send me the gift I needed via a "stranger's" blog. Thank you and those that have posted for loving enough to share. I'm making tracks...:) Just saw your recognition in Andrea’s newsletter and came out to see what the fuss was about. :)
Funny how the same universe that I cursed today for non-support thru a very similar situation as what you went thru in ‘97, can turn around and send me the gift I needed via a “stranger’s” blog.

Thank you and those that have posted for loving enough to share.

I’m making tracks…:)

]]> By: Feel Your Way to Freedom « Delightful Work http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-25 Feel Your Way to Freedom « Delightful Work Wed, 03 Oct 2007 16:03:50 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-25 [...] This process uses journaling, which is a very effective method for feeling and releasing negative emotions. I’ve personally found it to be wonderful and it’s what got me unstuck from the lingering affects of a major life wound. [...] [...] This process uses journaling, which is a very effective method for feeling and releasing negative emotions. I’ve personally found it to be wonderful and it’s what got me unstuck from the lingering affects of a major life wound. [...]

]]> By: Tom Volkar http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Tom Volkar Wed, 26 Sep 2007 12:17:15 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-24 Kay, how powerful you sound. Your clarity about what you can do right now is inspiring. Yes, when we use the physical movement along with gratitude our perspective can't help but change. Just holding that intention has already changed yours. Assuming the perspective that you've chosen these challenging events is so powerful. It connects you firmly with an acceptance of what is, right here and now. Acceptance without agreement or resistance will allow you to see your array of available options. Then I'm sure you'll see your optimum opening and when you do - seize it with every wonderful cell in your being. Without down we would not recognize up. I have a strong hunch that your bottom is in the past. Enjoy the ride back up the hill as the beautiful soul you are. Kay, how powerful you sound. Your clarity about what you can do right now is inspiring. Yes, when we use the physical movement along with gratitude our perspective can’t help but change. Just holding that intention has already changed yours.

Assuming the perspective that you’ve chosen these challenging events is so powerful. It connects you firmly with an acceptance of what is, right here and now. Acceptance without agreement or resistance will allow you to see your array of available options. Then I’m sure you’ll see your optimum opening and when you do - seize it with every wonderful cell in your being.

Without down we would not recognize up. I have a strong hunch that your bottom is in the past. Enjoy the ride back up the hill as the beautiful soul you are.

]]> By: Kay Grace http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Kay Grace Wed, 26 Sep 2007 03:14:05 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-23 I love the way that the words, love and encouragement come exactly when we need it the most. Thank you Tom, for the excellent blog, and Bill's response as well. I love the sailing metaphor. After a series of challenging news this past month or so, I find myself walking the razor's edge between financial disaster and glorious success, in the material world, anyway. Just as I have begun to accept the moment as it is, and to turn hopeful and open, I received word today that almost all of my IRA savings were embezzled by someone. My so-called safety net is gone. How did I respond? I took a deep breath, then another. I asked myself what there is for me to learn, and what a life with no safety net looks like. Maybe this is the fast track school for learning to trust in the ultimate goodness of God, humanity and my own best Self. There are endless paths to take, and as the Indigo Girls say, "every path is worth your while." So, sell the house and live in India for a year? Who knows? This time, I want to move more surely in the direction of my heart's desires. After all, working from a pile of shoulds and trying to make things happen sure isn't taking me where I'd like to go! Tomorrow, I start running again, not for the miles in my log book, but for the sheer joy of the movement. When I wake up in the morning, I plan to spend the first 10 minutes laughing out loud, just for the heck of it. I'll swing my feet to the floor, and take 3 deep breaths, and list 10 things I'm grateful for, feeling it from my core Being. I'll act as if I had chosen this set of circumstances, and see where that takes me. Most of all, I'll treasure my friends more, with fresh eyes and deepest appreciation, from the bottom of my heart. I love the way that the words, love and encouragement come exactly when we need it the most. Thank you Tom, for the excellent blog, and Bill’s response as well. I love the sailing metaphor.

After a series of challenging news this past month or so, I find myself walking the razor’s edge between financial disaster and glorious success, in the material world, anyway. Just as I have begun to accept the moment as it is, and to turn hopeful and open, I received word today that almost all of my IRA savings were embezzled by someone. My so-called safety net is gone.

How did I respond? I took a deep breath, then another. I asked myself what there is for me to learn, and what a life with no safety net looks like. Maybe this is the fast track school for learning to trust in the ultimate goodness of God, humanity and my own best Self.

There are endless paths to take, and as the Indigo Girls say, “every path is worth your while.” So, sell the house and live in India for a year? Who knows? This time, I want to move more surely in the direction of my heart’s desires. After all, working from a pile of shoulds and trying to make things happen sure isn’t taking me where I’d like to go!

Tomorrow, I start running again, not for the miles in my log book, but for the sheer joy of the movement. When I wake up in the morning, I plan to spend the first 10 minutes laughing out loud, just for the heck of it.

I’ll swing my feet to the floor, and take 3 deep breaths, and list 10 things I’m grateful for, feeling it from my core Being. I’ll act as if I had chosen this set of circumstances, and see where that takes me.

Most of all, I’ll treasure my friends more, with fresh eyes and deepest appreciation, from the bottom of my heart.

]]> By: Tom Volkar http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Tom Volkar Tue, 25 Sep 2007 19:51:22 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-22 Wow! Bill, what a good friend you are to share such words of wisdom in his time of need. We often under-estimate the impact we have on others. But we should not. Even in small doses, the encouraging word, the compassionate touch or a moment of listening does wonders. Often our human connections are among our greatest treasures. Inspiration to try a new direction can come from many places all birthed by movement, first as a seed of thought and soon as a burst of action. Supporting a friend with a heart-to-heart connection, like you did, is indeed the best way for us to acknowledge and encourage one another. Wow! Bill, what a good friend you are to share such words of wisdom in his time of need. We often under-estimate the impact we have on others. But we should not. Even in small doses, the encouraging word, the compassionate touch or a moment of listening does wonders. Often our human connections are among our greatest treasures.

Inspiration to try a new direction can come from many places all birthed by movement, first as a seed of thought and soon as a burst of action. Supporting a friend with a heart-to-heart connection, like you did, is indeed the best way for us to acknowledge and encourage one another.

]]> By: Bill Weil http://www.delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Bill Weil Sun, 23 Sep 2007 13:59:51 +0000 http://delightfulwork.com/2007/09/21/how-to-get-up-when-you%e2%80%99re-really-down/#comment-21 I could not agree more. I've been down a time or two, we all have, some of us worse than others. I have a young friend, 25 years old, who has been stuck for a while, when he ran into a whole 'nother level of bad a few days before his birthday. I wrote him from the heart and I'd like to share some of it here. <em>I'm sure this isn't the best of birthdays, given the circumstances. I guess some birthdays are just plain fun and others are opportunities to take stock of things and see where you've been and where you want to point your boat. You are an amazing human being, with wonderful gifts, so lovable, genuine, trustworthy, free-spirited, intelligent, innocent, compassionate and if I wasn't so tired I'm sure I could fill the screen with your special attributes. I'm longing to see you sink your teeth into something that allows you to feel you are making the kind of contribution you know you have in you to make. I'm sure you are too. Please stay open. Let it happen. I don't know if you've done any sailing - my favorite activity. One of the trickiest parts is when you want to go in the direction from which the wind is coming. If you head straight into the wind, you go into "irons" (forgive me if you know this). When you're in irons, you literally get pushed backwards. It's only by tacking in a different direction - any direction, that you can literally "get some wind in your sails" and thereby gain some speed and then tack to your destination. You can't head straight for it, but you can keep turning back and forth, crossing the wind, until you get where you're going. So, I wish you wind in your sails. I wish you peace in taking any direction, knowing that you can always change course. I wish you guidance, and the courage to keep moving even when you don't have it. You are a special guy. The world is waiting for you.</em> I could not agree more. I’ve been down a time or two, we all have, some of us worse than others. I have a young friend, 25 years old, who has been stuck for a while, when he ran into a whole ‘nother level of bad a few days before his birthday. I wrote him from the heart and I’d like to share some of it here.

I’m sure this isn’t the best of birthdays, given the circumstances. I guess some birthdays are just plain fun and others are opportunities to take stock of things and see where you’ve been and where you want to point your boat.

You are an amazing human being, with wonderful gifts, so lovable, genuine, trustworthy, free-spirited, intelligent, innocent, compassionate and if I wasn’t so tired I’m sure I could fill the screen with your special attributes.

I’m longing to see you sink your teeth into something that allows you to feel you are making the kind of contribution you know you have in you to make. I’m sure you are too. Please stay open. Let it happen.

I don’t know if you’ve done any sailing - my favorite activity. One of the trickiest parts is when you want to go in the direction from which the wind is coming. If you head straight into the wind, you go into “irons” (forgive me if you know this). When you’re in irons, you literally get pushed backwards. It’s only by tacking in a different direction - any direction, that you can literally “get some wind in your sails” and thereby gain some speed and then tack to your destination. You can’t head straight for it, but you can keep turning back and forth, crossing the wind, until you get where you’re going.

So, I wish you wind in your sails. I wish you peace in taking any direction, knowing that you can always change course. I wish you guidance, and the courage to keep moving even when you don’t have it.

You are a special guy.

The world is waiting for you.

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