Best regards,
Lance

Those submodalities of necessity like ought, should, need etc are really damaging in temrs of making us feel bad but also eating away at self-esteem when we say we should do something and then don’t follow through with it.

I actually encourage clients to replace them with phrases such as like to, love to, want to etc. Not always realistic for some things but when they can be used without the unconscious saying “Yeh, whatever” they immediately alter the subjective experience.

The first batch invoke images of drooped shoulders and a miserable face the second the exact opposite. We set our own reality, so if we can fool our unconscious a few times into believing in our new reality then it will be so.

Cheers
Tim

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Clem I’m very happy for you that you’ve come to a pijt of awareness surrounding your language. Why are we harder on ourselves than others, you ask? Because we have practiced listening to that critical voice more than the supportive one. You have an unconditionally loving and supportive voice that you can use for yourself as well. Just be aware and bring him out more often and it becomes natural.

Pat I see what you mean. Yes your article is a very good one with some of the same excellent points. I’ve placed a comment on it over at your place.

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Language acts as a bridge between your intentions and your dreams. You can be very clear about what you want and even be very willing to take bold actions. But if your talk doesn’t allow you to see your optimum path – you’ll never walk it. Powerful language not only emboldens your actions, it makes visible options to which you were once blind.

This is such a great point Tom. I’m thinking of this in terms of using language to create openings or opportunities for action. The language we use creates a pathway for us to follow with our actions.

Thanks!
Erek

Andrea yes isn’t it amazing the results we can get just by changing the tone of our self-talk? One of these days I’m going to ask you to belt out that high register just so we can see if you still have it. J

Shilpan absolutely language is an attraction factor and perhaps it’s the most powerful of influences because it works to direct our creation whether our language is positive or less than positive.

Mags I always like your stories. J This time you reminded me of a nightmare sales manager I used to have. He blatantly stole your ideas and presented them as his own right in front of you! Like you, I complained and bitched about him for months until I realized that I needed a new strategy. I changed my self-talk and thoughts regarding him to one of the high respect. It was amazing. Within weeks he was treating me as a favored son.

Patricia I’m sure I’d enjoy your posts. Please feel free to come back here and link us to your most powerful post on language.

Karl you’ve hit on one of the most powerful realizations that create success. Above all we must act with confidence. That’s practically impossible when we are beating ourselves up.

Jonathan yes language almost always requires a closer look or hearing. My coaching clients are usually deaf to the negativity that they are supporting by their language. That’s why it’s so important to have a friend or coach who is willing to speak up when we are presenting a less than powerful story about ourseleves.

Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..Watch Your Language – Three Small Adjustments that Can Make Your Dreams Come True

Sometimes we don’t realize how powerful that language we use with ourselves and others is. We may think we’re affirming positively, but with a closer look we can really add more umph and meaning to our intentions. =)

Jonathan

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