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Mon, 18 Aug 2008 21:06:15 +0000

[...] the antidote for this? I like the strong case made by blogger Tom Volkar that success is an inside job, or at least originates there. But once you know that, where do [...]

By: Tom Volkar

Tom Volkar — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:45:14 +0000

Patricia I’m please to hear that your are a practiced changer of perspectives. It’s quite amazing what a fresh viewpoint can do for us.

Chris duly noted. I shall bring more stories into my posts. Glad you liked it.

By: Chris Posti Tice

Chris Posti Tice — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:06:24 +0000

Tom,

Loved the coaching story. I think we all learn from hearing stories - please share more! I’ll bet you’ve got plenty of great ones.

Chris

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 06:24:15 +0000

I love the words of wisdom that comes from reading Wayne Dyer. Thanks for sharing this post. For myself, changing my own perspective really does work toward changing my world.

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworkers last blog post..Seeking, Truth, Spiritual, Warrior—Words For Who I Am

By: Tom Volkar

Tom Volkar — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:21:06 +0000

Cath we all have been blind to our inner workings at one point. The important thing is that you’ve awakened now. The way to begin is to honor yourself by keeping this agreement. For ten days list all of the expanded possibilities that arise for you. Don’t judge them. Just jot them down. At the same time begin to look for the good in all challenges. When we ask, what’s good about this? There is always something.

I’ll continue the story soon. Feel free to post here any questions that come up for you while working the process.

By: Tom Volkar

Tom Volkar — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:07:25 +0000

Akemi you are so right. External, cosmetic fixes are so tempting but offer only very temporary relief. Permanent change begins within. Don’t you think that’s one our most honorable duties as life coaches? Guiding our client’s internal explorations.

Andrea your comment doesn’t sound very “woo-woo” to me. That joyous state of energized aliveness is definitely our finest point of creation.

Laurie your question is a good one. Working in my life coaching practice I find that going deep scares many but is always fulfilling post excavation. I’m not sure if it’s a conscious denial but an unnamed fear of really seeing one’s truth.

John how is that vacation going? You’ve made an astute observation because Joe did indeed find a state of gratitude once he saw all of the possibilities he’d been gifted with. Expanded options create greater freedom, every time.

Evelyn I’m glad you enjoyed it. Joe’s further inner exploits are coming soon to a blog near you.

Will welcome, indeed clearing that doubtful voice and expressing our authentic voice is essential. Nice catch on the quote; it’s fixed now, thanks.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 13:35:14 +0000

Hi Tom - I think I was making the same mistake as Joe for a long time and I’m now trying to work on myself, so I’m really looking forward to reading about how he did it. And I’m off to do a bit of brainstorming now to see what possibilities I can come up with.

By: Will

Will — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:55:48 +0000

Great post! We all need more positivity to conquer that inner voice. The Dyer quote is incorrect though - you repeated the first half twice. 2nd half should be ‘the things you look at change’.

By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 16:43:30 +0000

Great article, Tom! I like the manner in which you are presenting it - a story. I’d be looking forward to reading your next post about Joe.

Evelyn Lims last blog post..Practising Awareness Of The Mind

By: John Morlan

John Morlan — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 12:44:45 +0000

“Joe’s .. agreement was to increase his awareness of expanded possibilities in both solutions and opportunities.”

While thumbing through my now well-worn copy of Steve Chandler’s book “100 Ways to Create Wealth”, I revisited this,
“In all the years we have worked with sales people we have found that the greatest predictor for sales success is personal happiness.”

Instead of “I’ll be happy when … (you fill in the blank)”. It appears that it is far more powerful to start by being happy, then success, however you define it, is more likely to show-up. And, to show-up sooner rather than later.

Asking Joe to increase his awareness of expanded possibilities is akin to asking him to be extremely happy in the ‘Now’ and to notice all the good that he already has and all that is coming to him ‘Now’.

With that in mind, I have declared this to be the first of many ‘Vacation Days’ whether I am working or not, this could be a much kinder perspective and most likely will yield a much higher awareness of expanded possibilities!