Feb 09 2010
Authentic Business Building
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We’ve all experienced the ready acceptance of affinity. Having something in common like a similar university experience or hailing from the same neck of the woods seems to create an instantaneous bond that relaxes both parties.
I wonder, if this occurs because way down deep within we already know that we are one and the affinity just gives us a reason to express our connection?
A Deeper Connection
My experience shows that authenticity can create an even deeper connection than affinity.
Authentic means you bring all of you to the interaction. No hiding parts of your personality. No mask wearing. Simply show up as the real you. For those of us who value authenticity this is meaningful.
A more genuine connection happens in the expression of that authenticity. A warmness and familiarity builds because you’ve shown up on the same terms with the same intention.
Authentic Business building is more about expressing than impressing.
An authentic connection means that we can count on one another for an intention of mutual highest good. An authentic connection means more transparency than polish. When all of our interactions both commercial and personal are transparent and above board we can more cleanly make decisions without fear.
That’s the climate I’m creating for my first MeetUp group in Pittsburgh. If you’re in town consider joining us on February 19 for the first meeting of Authentic Business Builders.
Opportunities Arise on Comfort’s Edge
Everybody likes a good surprise. We can create a breeding ground for surprises but we must to be willing to accept both pleasant ones and uncomfortable ones.
In my phone classes I’ll often share a point and then offer immediate laser coaching on that tool or issue.
I’m facilitating two classes this month. On 2-17-10 at 2 PM EST Start Up Your True Calling Based Business; Finding the Clarity & Confidence to Begin and on 2-24-10 at noon, Business Building for Failed Network Marketers Only; Forget Network Marketing: Instead Build Your Own Individuality-Based Business. Click here to enroll in one or both. They are free.
Talk about being the edge of ones comfort zone. At least for me, network marketing was very uncomfortable because it wasn’t really natural or authentic. Authentic discomfort is a whole different animal.
When I make that coaching offer in my classes, I have no idea what someone is going to present or how my coaching will be received. But I like being out there on the edge because on the edge of our comfort zones are where pleasant surprises happen.
Are you perhaps playing it a little too safe? Nudge yourself a little closer to the cliff. You might enjoy the authentic aliveness out there.
On the edge of comfort is where the juiciest opportunities present themselves.
Finally, I’m now making one-off authentic business coaching available. Some folks just want to pick my brain and determine the feasibility of their business idea without committing to a lengthy coaching agreement. Read all about it here.
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Hi Tom — I can definitely relate to that feeling of having no idea what attitude people are going to bring to a talk I’m giving. And then my sense of what people are thinking tends to be completely off as well. People whose eyes seem glazed over are usually the ones who come up to me afterward and tell me how helpful it was.
I really like this. People so often overlook how a little bit of authenticity or real, human empathy can go a long way. Good stuff.
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This concept is really interesting. One of your sentences is spot on, people need to push beyond their comfort zone. Easy said, few do.
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Chris – That’s why I like interactive talk. With participation we can quit guessing about connection. At least with those who participate.
Mongoose – Welcome. Come back for more. Authenticity is what I mostly write about.
Yst – Welcome. Glad you also know the value of living life on the edge.