Comments on: Hard Truths, Whole Truths and Nothing But the Truth? Bull!

By: Shilpan | successsoul.com

Shilpan | successsoul.com — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 23:29:34 +0000

Tom,
Great post. I think that most people won’t quit work simply because low self esteem. If you consider your self worth more than measley paycheck that you earn by trading hours, you will have will to change the course and take personal responsibility. Another reason is that most people consider job a safe bet. How ironical considering the fact that they put their life at risk by allowing someone else to make decision about their lives.

I just subscribed to your blog. Wonderful blog.

Thanks
Shilpan

By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 20:16:04 +0000

John good to feel your special, tell-it-like-it-is spirit once more. Yes let’s make up some deliciously daring adventures and go out and live them. We do make it all up and I find that to be tremendously refreshing. Is anyone else out there ready for a fresh new start?

By: John Morlan

John Morlan — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 20:03:31 +0000

Thanks for reminding me that “Every story we tell ourselves, if limiting in any way, is pure bull.” That rings especially true because of the part that says “if limiting in anyway”.

We do tell ourselves stories about people, places and things that show up daily. Heck, I even tell myself stories when I’m sleeping – some delightful, some scary – most seem real at the moment. Interesting how the story which plays out as a nightmare can be so easliy scoffed while the one that is told while awake must be heard and believed!? Now that really is some Bull!

Since it’s all made up anyway, why not make up a really good story with me (you) as the star and then just go out and live it! Wow – that’d be cool!

Five words in your post should be a part of my story every single day:
Wonderful. Adventure. Laughing. Daring. Funny.
Excuse me while I rewrite my story!

By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 13:45:42 +0000

Karl I love that Buddhist line. Thank you for the suggestion to just let things go once in awhile and enjoy life as it is. Yes many times I have let my work define me until I just laughed out loud at the silliness of it all. Sometimes I wonder if my real calling is to create so much work life freedom that my freedom defines me and not my work.

By: karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matters

karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matters — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 13:37:45 +0000

I too get so caught up in what I believe is true. When in reality I’m trying to wrap my brain around all the things that happen to me in a day. My script right now is my website. All the work that I put into it and how I let it define me. I’m so much more than my website.

That’s the battle that we all have. I read a great Buddhist quote that said something to the effect that when we think we can fix everything through our thoughts we aren’t seeing the big picture. We are still tapped in the lie. When we can just let go and enjoy ourselves we can stop pretending.

By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 12:29:37 +0000

Mags, regarding those “idiots” the best thing I ever heard is – that’s me too. I’m so glad that you “got me” in this post. Once I started laughing at myself I found so many situations where I was limiting myself that at times I lost my way and couldn’t discern which situation I was writing about. But since we make it all up and that keeps us from going for our bolder challenges we do need a new script. Being the authority in our own life means that we are the authors of it. Do come back and tell us the story of finding your dream home now that you’ve lifted the limits!

By: Mags

Mags — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 08:48:46 +0000

Hi Tom – Thanks for sharing this with us. I love the idea that I write the script for my life! I also love what you said about “But who’s really the fool? Who created the situation in the first place?” … I’m going to remember this next time I start getting upset at “the idiots” who are all “out there”!

Interestingly, regarding your last paragraph – we are busy house-hunting at the moment, and I have a very clear idea of what I want in a house. But so far, we haven’t found “it”. I was feeling quite frustrated on Sunday after an afternoon of viewing a lot of houses unsuitable to us, and musing over the issue with my guides, asking them why we hadn’t found “our” house yet. They replied “You can have it when you really want it”. I was flabbergasted… “But I do really want it! Of course I do!”. But they were right, when I started looking into it a little more deeply – I was holding some very limiting beliefs about it – the size of house that I want, in the area I want it, means an increase in council tax and a longer commute into the city. Every time I thought about the house, those issues would come up, along with issues around how to afford the house and the extra costs… oh boy! Time for a new script!