Comments on: How to Beat the Work Life Blues

By: Danielle

Danielle — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 14:41:39 +0000

Thanks for this! I found myself resisting a return to work after being on sick leave for 2 years. My flawed logic was this: “I don’t want to go back to that job. Every cell in my body is resisting going back. This must surely be a sign that I should not go back.” Only after reading this did I realize that it was not the job but the resistance that was causing me anguish and unhappiness.

By: Kay

Kay — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 02:02:10 +0000

Hi Tom – this is another great post.

A master EFT practitioner named Brad Yates (mentioned previously in this blog) suggests that one way to ease the resistance to actually using tools or techniques that we know will help us, is to set up and keep a daily practice.

It doesn’t have to be long or difficult, I like to use Brad’s “Tap O’ The Morning” EFT video on YouTube. It takes just a few minutes and is very helpful.

It’s kind of like the “wax on, wax off” thing in Karate Kid. When the need arises to use the movements, they are nearly automatic. It’s much easier to talk yourself out of doing something that’s less familiar.

LOVE this blog! – What amazing people comment here – lots of wisdom.

By: Tom Volkar

Tom Volkar — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:05:41 +0000

Melissa – welcome. The fact that you took a different outlook on the exact same job moving from resistance to acceptance is wonderful.
It proves that we can have impact also simply by changing how we feel about a situation – the situation indeed changes for us.

Marelisa – that’s quite the heavy image. I love your metaphor. Using opposing weight as a grappler would to leverage an advantageous position is a beautiful illustration, thank you, excellent!

Robin – it takes faith but really what other effective choice is there?
Fighting what is certainly is a losing battle.

Mark – Good to hear from you again.. You are right on. Why not experiment if you feel as though you can’t make your move right now? The times they are a changin but that means that opportunity exists somewhere.

By: Mark McClure

Mark McClure — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 08:58:19 +0000

@Robin – I believe you’re right – in some cases leaving a disliked job takes the proverbial mustard seed of faith plus some ruddy good financial preparations. Perhaps one implies the other

There is a lot of value in Tom’s #3 and #4 approaches – worth experimenting with while employment options are presenting themselves (however slowly).

Mark McClures last blog post..The Best Business Book I Have Ever Read

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 03:35:17 +0000

Hi Tom - it's so true that we can turn things around by changing our attitude to what is going on. Even if we need to leave a job, believing there can be something better waiting for us can take quite a bit of faith! Robins last blog post..Ice And Global Warming

By: Marelisa

Marelisa — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 23:08:31 +0000

It's so true that what we resist persists. The Sedona Method teaches that whenever we struggle with what is we are struggling against the entire universe. I imagine myself holding on to one end of the rope and pulling and having the rest of the universe holding on to the other end of the rope and pulling in the opposite direction. What chances do I have of "winning" that way? Instead you have to find a way of doing what wrestlers do: use the strength and weight of the other person (or situation) to your advantage. I think this is where creativity comes in, which is an area I'm really focusing on right now. Marelisas last blog post..27 Simple Ways to Simplify Your Life

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 16:39:46 +0000

#4 is huge for the many people who find themselves for many reasons in a job that drains them. The resistance only serves to drain them further and until they can walk away they will continue to resist unless they step back and accept. I railed against a position I had for about a year. It hurt me emotionally an spiritually. People who loved me said that the job was killing my spirit. It wasn’t the job that was killing me, it was my interpretation of the job, my resistance to it and my unwillingness to accept it. For many reasons it was the right place and position for me to be in at the time and once I accepted it and stopped fighting I found my mind and heart open to new possibilities. Within months of making that decision I had been promoted to a position that fit much better with my heart and my mind and I was once again happy.

I’m so glad to see that you are applying these principals to work situations. Too often people think that to be enlightened you have to be outside of the corporate world. As if you can’t be enlightened wherever you are!

Melissas last blog post..Do You Have Life Purpose Anxiety?

By: Tom Volkar

Tom Volkar — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 13:44:32 +0000

Cath – most everyone chooses two initially because we like to think we are in control and can change things. It’s interesting because many people who think they are choosing #2 change, actually are choosing resistance because they are fighting the change. it doesn’t sound like theat’s the case with you since you go to accptance if change doesn’t work.

As for the Tolle books I haven’t read far enough into the second one, The New Earth, yet to tell you if there is a definitive favorite. I do think you could start with either because he does cover a lot of the same ground in the second book that he did in the first. I’m over-simplifying but his entire brilliant and profound works are to get us to realize that the present is our only point of power. But he does it in so many different ways and approaches that we indeed are resisting less while reading him.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 22:27:19 +0000

Hi Tom – I usually go for 2. But if that’s not always possible straight away, I’ll accept the situation until it is.

I’ve been reading a lot about these Eckart Tolle books. But some reviews say both books are similar. Have you read both? Which one is best?

By: Tom Volkar

Tom Volkar — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 21:03:46 +0000

Christine – thanks for sharing what came up for you. You are courageous to do so and it’s a good sign that you’re ready to release these erroneous limiting beliefs about yourself. There are many effective ways to let go of limiting beliefs and I’m asking you to use one of the most effective. Google UTube for EFT and self esteem. Follow along and tap those beliefs away. Come back and tell us how it works for you.

Mark – welcome, please come again and tell us how things are going for you.